In this session the client had a very vivid past life experience sometime in the Middle Ages. It was rich in detail and filled with action. However, I am providing a very short summary of the regression because of the many profound insights his sub-conscious (SC) mind provided.
This client’s objective was to understand why he had been in only one relationship during his life and this relationship ended over 10 years ago. While outwardly he is a very social person he often declines invitations from friends and family whose company he enjoys. He has had over 40 different jobs which he generally did well in, but none was long term. He did experience some level of success in writing and acting and was promoted during his time in the army. However, he never pursued either artistic interest completely. Since returning from a tour in the Middle East he has experienced the lack of a steady sleep.
His regression took him back to a place where he found himself to be a royal prince. He enjoyed the trappings of success but was not impressed by it. He found his satisfaction in helping his subjects who lived a hard life in the fields outside the town. He found in this past life he had both a family friend and a relative that helped him to maintain focus and to help evaluate the motives of people who might take advantage of his good nature.
The client moved to a discussion with his subconscious (SC). It advised him that he gives up too easily when he finds himself bored or when he finds something tougher to do then when he first thought about doing it. When asked why, the SC forcefully advised, the client’s habit of SELF-CRITICISM stands in the way of him accomplishing what he needs to accomplish – “All The Time”. His self-criticism is blocking him from moving forward and developing the talents he was born with and should be sharing with others.
The SC advised the client he receives great satisfaction by helping and uplifting other people. If the client stays true to the things he likes to do and wants to do, and if he develops the discipline to master the skills without giving up when confronted with a temporary set-back or some of the less exciting details of the task, the results of his efforts would end up helping and uplifting people.
The SC advised the client certain things he does in order to make things perfect actually adds no value to himself or to other people. The level of perfection he seeks will not even be noticed by people. The client was advised mistakes connect you with other people. All people make mistakes – being afraid of making a mistake and not even trying actually disconnects a person from other people. It prevents him from the act of engaging other people and missing an opportunity of gaining a better understanding of himself and other people. Imperfection creates an environment of vulnerability where self-love, personal growth and real relationships with those around him would grow and develop.
The SC advised accepting and being comfortable with vulnerability. Accepting vulnerability would open the client up to be able to engage in a long term relationship.
The SC advised the client to stop using other people or an institution’s definition of success as a measuring stick for his own success. This is the answer to his questions about why he stopped engaging in community theater, poetry writing, developing and managing a house budget, developing a gym routine & not visiting friends who he loves and who loves him. He needs to understand his value in a relationship does not come from how people feel about him, but how he makes them feel and that is the reason people seek him out.
The SC advised him to find a position that allows him to develop his skills in a straight forward and logical path and is not mundane but requires a level of analysis, in a friendly environment and provides him an opportunity to support and train others.
The SC advised his insomnia which started after returning from Iraq is due to the fact that in Iraq the client was always “ON”. Living for seven months in a 24×7 operational environment and living in a constant state of fear, there was no down time. Since returning, the client has been in a constant state of activity. This issue could be resolved if the client allowed himself down time and quite time. The SC suggested finding 20 minutes a day of quite time.
Stomach issues were the results of stress being internalized from his perfectionist behavior. By being more accepting of himself the client issues should be resolved since all medical tests have been negative and no physical causes have been found.
The closing messages for the client included:
- Stop trying to be perfect – sometimes good enough is good enough
- When attempting to try something new try to enlist the support of a family member or friend that you feel you can confide in and give them permission to provide support and encouragement – he doesn’t have to do it alone
- Take baby steps in becoming more vulnerable: make a short phone call to a friend with no purpose other than to say high, send a copy of an article that you think someone would like, like a Facebook entry and see what happens… “Reach out”
SELD CRITISIM – Sometime Good Enough is Good Enough!
Note: Any medical comments made by the SC during a session should be reviewed with a medical professional
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